David and I are coming up on the one month mark rapidly. It feels like it has been years since we were married, but it really hasn’t even been thirty days! I suppose that is a good thing, right?
I have been taking notes in my phone of advice I want to share with my readers since the day after our wedding. I have about twenty tips I have made note of so far, however, five stand out to me at this point in time. The first few weeks of marriage are the most euphoric and exciting, meaning the advice is happy, genuine, and yet, constructive.
These five tips can be utilized at any point in a marriage (in my opinion), but coming from a newly married woman, it may serve as a reminder to the couple who have been married for a while or the engaged couple interested to see what marriage will be like from another couple’s perspective. No matter who you are, I hope you find these tips interesting, helpful, or at least fun to read!
- Schedule a “date” at least one day out of the week. Now, I have blogged about this in the past (not too long ago actually). David and I were slacking in this department prior to the big day. More recently, we have taken the time to actually sit down and go on a “date.” Back in March, David and I took the Friday F Day Challenge. Although we did not update our dates specifically on the website, we did take the time to go on our dates. I highly recommend making this a routine, especially now. If you get in the habit of making time for each other now, you will find it is easier to include it in your future schedules. If you need ideas or to be held accountable, I suggest checking out Friday F Day. This website is wonderful. Check out my previous blog about the website and get started making your date nights even more fun!
- Being together is wonderful, but having time to yourself is too! As a married couple, you do not necessarily have to be attached at the hip. Spending time together should be frequent and enjoyable, but it does not need to be every moment of every single day. Do not mistake your time apart while at work as personal time either. Allow yourself at least an hour (or more) a day to unwind and be with yourself. During my alone time, I like to blog, read articles, watch my favorite YouTube stars, and watch Netflix shows that I know David hates. David likes to play games on his phone or PS4, play with the dog, or ready articles online. Time to ourselves allows us to appreciate the time we spend together.
- Try cooking dinner together. David and I love to cook dinner together. We do not do it every night, but we do it often. It is fun to work together and I find that we enjoy our meal more when we cook together. Don’t just count this as a date night to get it over with… unless you make it known that you are making it your Friday F Day! 😉
- Learn each other’s love language. This is another tip that I recommend for any couple, not just married ones. The thing about love is, we all love differently. For example, my primary love languages are acts of service and physical touch. That means I respond well to my partner doing things for me. I cannot stand laziness and broken commitments. For personal touch, nothing makes me happier than when David just puts his arm around me, holds my hand, or expresses any form of physical presence when together. Learn your partner’s love languages so you can keep each other happy!
- COMMUNICATE! I saved the best for last (duh). Communication is imperative and key to a solid relationship. This tip goes for ALL forms of relationships. Communicate with friends, co-workers, family, and your partner. Never assume a person knows what you mean, because that is when arguments happen! Communicate on a regular basis.
Do you have some tips to add to my list? These are the top five that have proven to be impactful in my relationship, but what about you and your partner? Let me know your thoughts!
Completely unwarranted life lesson from a married woman #4: Prioritize your relationship with your partner. Spending time together can be as simple as sharing a cup of coffee or more in depth like planning a weekend getaway. Plan that Friday F Day (or whatever day of the week you two prefer)!